So, your loved one has become a minimalist.
This may be concerning news to you, but I assure you that they are alright. No your friend hasn’t joined a cult and they don’t hate you just because you enjoy shopping. Your friend is just trying to improve their own life.
You want to be respectful to your pals new lifestyle, but it’s the holidays! How do you buy a gift for someone who doesn’t like stuff? Well I am here to help, this article isn’t a guide with specific gifts, but a guide to choosing something on your own that will help you be supportive of your loved one’s lifestyle and get them something for the holidays that they will truly value.
Without further ado let’s get into it.
Ask Them What They Want
The best way to buy a minimalist a gift is a pretty universal gifting strategy that works for almost anyone. Just ask them what they want, and actually buy based off the list they give you. I know some people feel that a gift is ruined if it isn’t a surprise, however your minimalist friend is likely to get rid off your gift if it isn’t something they actually want and if they don’t specifically say they’d prefer a surprise they probably want whatever they asked for. Given minimalists have put a lot of effort into paring down their belongings they aren’t apt to appreciate being given something they just don’t want and will have to declutter.
Get Them Foods
Foods are great gifts for minimalists. Why? Because your gift is edible it will be consumed and won’t contribute to clutter. I’d also advise goods that are at least a month shelf stable because we all tend to have a lot of food in the house around the holidays or be eating out a lot. Something that will stay good for a while like chocolates or alcohol gives your loved one the flexibility to enjoy your gift at their leisure and not worry about eating it before it expires.
Gift an Experience
This is an idea that is increasingly popular not just among minimalists but the millennial generation as well. By experience I mean something like tickets to a show, massage or spa vouchers, movie theater or restaurant gift cards, or tickets to a game. Experiences, just like edible goods, don’t create any clutter and the values of minimalism encourage people to spend more time doing and less time getting things. You can help your loved one create a fun memory whilst also respecting their values.
I know there is a bit of a gifting taboo around cash, however there is an equal amount of jokes during the holidays about cash being all people really want. Especially if your friend is a minimalist I wouldn’t worry too much about them looking down on you for giving them cash. Minimalism is already unconventional and your loved one will likely appreciate your support of their new lifestyle and willingness to modify your gift giving habits for them.
Just like with cash, people often say that giving gift cards is a cop out, but they are some of my absolute favorite gifts to receive. The beauty of a gift card is that there is no pressure to spend the money in a utilitarian way or to save it. Because you can only spend it in one place you are able to treat yourself at that location or retailer without feeling any twinges of guilt that you should be saving that money. Just like with cash, your friend will likely appreciate your support of their minimalist values and not be mad that you “copped out” of buying a gift for them.
On a similar vein to gift cards, if your minimalist friend is a very ardent supporter of a cause such as protecting the environment, women’s rights, or ending poverty consider donating to a charity on their behalf. This is a great option if your friend has told you that they truly don’t want anything this Christmas, a charitable donation not only shows support and respect to their minimalist lifestyle but to their passions as well.
Offer to do Something for Them
Do their laundry, clean their car, meal prep their food for a week, pick up their kids from school, clean their bathroom, or do any other little chore for your loved one that can help make their life easier. Time is the most valuable resource we all have, and being willing to spend yours to making their life a bit easier is a really beautiful way to show you care.
What No To Do
Thus far, we’ve focused on what you should do to successfully shop for a minimalist, I’d also like to provide a little guidance on what NOT to do.
Buy Something Generic
Ladies, we’ve all received generic Bath and Bodyworks gift sets and most of us have gifted them to others as well. The last thing you want to do when you buy a gift for someone who is a minimalist is buy something generic, minimalism involves being very choosy about what items you bring into your life and values vary too much from individual to individual to go the generic route. Look above for other ideas.
Buy Them a Physical Item if They Specifically Asked You Not To
Now this may be difficult if your family has a strong gift giving culture, however if your loved one has gone as far to actively request no physical gifts they are probably quite committed to the minimalist lifestyle. Don’t take it personally, because honestly your loved one’s choice isn’t about you. They don’t want to be rude they just want their lifestyle choices respected. If gift giving is your love language, consider the fact that it isn’t theirs and get them something non-physical.
These are my tips and ideas for how to buy gifts for a minimalist.
Of course this is general advice and not all of it will or can apply to every single minimalist, but all of this advice does align directly with the most common principles and interpretations of minimalism. If you still feel unsure, just have an open dialogue with your loved one about gifts.
This post is the first in a whole series I have planned about how to handle gifting as, or for, a minimalist or environmentally conscious person. Let me know in the comments below if you’d like me to cover anything specific on this topic or create a particular gift guide.
As always, thanks for reading and happy holidays!